When I walked in to see the girls yesterday, the nurse had the girls dressed in pink. I couldn't believe my girls were wearing something other than a diaper. They've been naked for so long. Of course the first thing I did when I got home last night was throw their preemie clothes in the washer so I could dress them today. The girls will surely be having a photo session today.
Both of the girls are growing by leaps and bounds. They have both topped 3 lbs. It's amazing how big they seem. Pat was out-of-town for a day, and all he could say last night was how much the girls had filled out. His words, "Abby's cheeks are so chubby!" Compared to a full term baby they aren't chubby, but they are compared to where the girls started. They are beginning to open their eyes more and more each day. It's hard to think they aren't even supposed to be here yet.
Because the girls are doing so well, it's hard to keep in mind that we have to adjust their age. Since they weren't supposed to be here until July 22, their age will be adjusted by 4 months. At this point the girls were still supposed to be in utero growing, so they are having to do that here in the real world instead. I hope that makes since. In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter when they walk or talk? They say Albert Einstein didn't speak until he was 3.
Patrick and I are working hard at not comparing the girls. We've caught ourselves saying things like "Abby caught up to her sister in weight," or "Emma's had to deal with a lot more than Abby," as if it were a competition. We are trying to keep in mind that the girls are individuals and that they will do things at different times. I've been reading some articles about twin competition, and I certainly don't want the girls to ever feel like they have to compete with each other. I know that that is something they will deal with enough in the real world, but we don't want them to feel that way at home.
Enough of my ramblings. I'm off to spend time with my wonderful girls.
Just stop...
10 years ago
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Just think, it want be long until the girls go home. Thanks for the updates. Bill C.
I'll be looking forward to seeing the pictures of the girls! I could not get over how perfect their little faces are....they look "chubby" in the face and look like they have filled out!
You are right, it does not matter when they walk or when they talk. Chase walked at 8 months and Madie walked 8 days before she turned 1! You'll find they will reach those milestones when they want to and you will celebrate each one as their very own accomplishment! It is hard not to compare your kids, I've done it with Chase and Madie and they are 7 years apart! I've come to realize they are both alike, but different in so many ways and I wouldn't have it any other way!
You are such an amazing mom and I know you and Pat will be right there beside the girls as they continue to grow and develop into their own little personalities. I know if they could talk right now, they would both say, "Our parents rock!" :) Or possibly, "Gig 'em..." :) ( I knew Pat would like that!)
God is wonderful! Love you!
Oh I am so happy for you all...imagine today pink, tomorrow blue, and the next day yellow....amd on and on..As for comparing them, that happens in every family..twins or not. I don't know if you have siblings but I know how my four were compared, dressed alike, etc..and it never reduced my love for or from them and they are really wonderful people. Just as the girls will be. Pat's aunts, Rita and Rosie Nolan, were always "the twins" and I've known them from before we were in high school together..and they are extreme individuals in their own rights. Twins can have such fun together..I have seen it in school..trying to trick the teachers (me)..that sort of thing..especially if they were identical. Just enjoy them and your worries will be few!
Do you think they might make 5lbs by the 4th? They have a good start..then you'll need red, white and blue!! My love and prayers...Vonnie
I am so happy for you all! Just think, when they are walking, talking, running, fighting..you will think...Man! Remember when all we had to do was hold them? Lots of love and prayers!
Congrats on passing 3 lbs! It's great to see those cheeks and other parts filling in, isn't it?
I know what you mean about the weird feeling of "not even supposed to be here yet". Today is our girls' due date, even though they're two months old. We're going to celebrate their 0th birthday with a treat from Coldstone Creamery.
Don't feel guilty about comparing them. It's natural and pretty much impossible to avoid, because it's human nature to compare things to other things. What you *can* avoid is making comparisons in some sort of competitive way, which it sounds like you have well under control. We're big on treating our girls like individuals, too, but all siblings are bound to have similarities or things about their development that you can't help but compare, especially if they're born at the same time. Wanting a slower developer or grower to "catch up", especially in the NICU, doesn't mean it's a competition - it means you want to bring both home ASAP, and you always feel bad if one is lagging behind. It's a love feeling, not a competition feeling.
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