We have never kept the fact that we had to be assisted by way of IVF, and by no means are we ashamed of the fact. It's quite the opposite. We wanted to start a family and this was our only avenue with the exception of adoption. If IVF didn't work we had already begun to get things together to adopt. I guess the problem for me when asked that question is that it's a personal matter. I would equate the question to asking someone "What position were you in when you got pregnant?" I know that that is a crude question, but so is asking if my sweet babies were conceived naturally. Some people choose to keep the matter of having to be helped in order to get pregnant private, and I completely understand their reasoning. It's no one elses business. When you go through IVF it takes all the romance out of getting pregnant. It's no longer just you and your partner. It's a doctor, a lab, nurses, etc. I can tell you this though, our girls were born out of love (climbing down off soap box).
One of our sweet nurses made these nameplates for the girls. She is such a sweetheart. We love how she put three little peas in the pod. She also bought me a hooter hider. It makes pumping in their rooms so much easier. Thanks so much Nurse A. We hope you come back and take care of use again...soon!!
Here are some pics of the girls. I hope I haven't put these on before.
Abby peeking at me.
Emma all swaddled.
7 comments:
I just read your post of today and I am so sorry that your privacy has been invaded so often. I totally agree that it is a very private thing and personally I am afraid I would have deeply resented the intrusion..we were married six years before I conceived and we often got those questioning looks so I have a bit of an idea of your feelings. Having worked for a GP doctor for five years, I had a bit of experience there....and that was over 50 years ago...life really hasn't changed when it comes to 'nosey' people!!! And not for one second do I question the depth of your love for each other and for those precious little girls. Now try to put those remarks behind you and look forward..to 'what will the girls wear today?', 'should we dress them alike?' "will they be identical?"..that sort of thing. In other words, enjoy the moments to the utmost! The little "peas in a pod" is darling..aren't nurses thoughtful? I know they are very attached to the girls..I hope you will keep in touch with them as I'm sure they will be interested in their progress. Now keep those chins up and don't forget you can always say...that is too private to discuss! Fondly, Vonnie
I'm never amazed at how people feel they can ask particular questions. I can just hear you say, "Are you kidding me?"
God brings each and every single life into this world for a reason. Yes, you and Pat had help....just like we all did. Without God's help, none of us would be here. I know how much becoming a mother meant to you and I never thought about how you did it. You should take a little flip chart and show them....this is the sperm, this is the egg....they meet....they bond....they grow! People just don't think about what they are saying and I'm sorry you were even asked that.
I love the nameplates....so sweet! I'm thinking of you guys and keep the girls in my thoughts often. Love ya!
amen! first, it is private, i agree. second, i object to the terms natural and artificial. i won't go on a tirade, because you said everything beautifully (and yours wasn't a tirade). :)
love your beautiful girls, love the nameplates. my sil used her hooter hider (actually, my breastfriend hers was called)to death. love you, momma!
I am glad you said what you thought because there is really no need in anyone asking you questions like that anyway .What goes on in your personal life is really your own business not others. I think you said everything perfect not rudely but very kind. I don't know if it was me I would have been that nice. Your babies are beautiful and getting healthier everyday you guys are doing a great job. Jana I haven't seen you in many many years and don't know your husband at all but knowing your family and how you used to be you have got to be the best mom ever. I hope all continues to go well, Sonya Huffman McCord
Some people are just rude!!! Your angels were conceived in love. End of story!!!!
You will teach your girls to be sensitive to others, unlike some morons in the world.
Your girls are getting so big. I'm sure it has been so very hard at times, yet, so rewarding to see God healing them.
Kiss them and tell them they are stilled prayed for by many in the Childress area.
Amen!! So happy to see the Aggie Girls getting so strong!!! By the way...they are BEAUTIFUL!!!
I've heard of that question repeatedly causing discomfort to mom's of IVF multiples...I just don't understand how it is anyone else's business. I even heard a story where a mom of twins was asked that question and she said "IVF" and the response was, "oh, you had them the EASY way!" - I had to almost laugh - if that was the easy way, her hubby must be REALLY bad in bed! I would have much preferred to have gotten pregnant making love with my husband, thank you very much! Oh well- at least you have some absolutely beautiful parting gifts of this whole IVF process!
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